This article is an intimate exploration and description of the author’s transformational journey at the moment of death of his beloved wife, Nadine. It explores the transformative process of surrendering and releasing the “frozen moments” in time that can bind one’s consciousness when experiencing grief and loss. Frozen moments in time are incomplete moments in one’s life that continue to carry an energetic charge of fear or desire which pulls one’s awareness out of the present moment and into the past or future creating endless suffering and supporting the illusion of independent self-existence. The author underwent a significant transformational process where he spontaneously encountered a series of mental images in his consciousness that pulled awareness out of the present moment and into profound states of pain and suffering. He found that any attempt to manipulate the image was met with more suffering. It was not until these images were met from a place of no-judgment, surrender and non-doing that they transformed themselves, releasing the associated frozen energy and revealing the completeness of the moment.
Brian Theriault, MEd., C.C.C., completed his Master’s degree in counselling psychology and embraces a nondual-transpersonal approach in his clinical work counselling clients. Brian was introduced to nonduality through Gary Tzu and has done personal work with him for several years. He has worked as a therapist in a number of counselling environments, including addiction and mental health agencies, and has co-facilitated nondual groups with Gary in Lethbridge, Alberta, Canada. He is also an associate editor for Paradoxica: The Journal of Nondual Psychology (www.paradoxica.ca) and has several published articles illustrating the transforming power of nondual psychotherapy. He utilizes the work of nondual psychologists Gary Tzu and A.H. Almaas, and the profound Zen and mystical teachings of Osho and Lao Tzu.